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5 Job-Hunting Ideas You Haven’t Tried

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1. Seek speaking opportunities.Share your knowledge with others (e.g. civic groups) so identify organizations interested in hearing you speak.
2. Use the Events application on LinkedIn. . This app provides a great way to extend your network.
3. Use Quora.com to demonstrate your expertise.This is a social media website where you can ask and answer questions.
4. Create a website. Use it to showcase your accomplishments and tie together your relevant social networking profiles.

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Top 5 mistakes on executive resumes

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According to an article written by Annie Fisher in an interview with Howard Seidel (partner in Boston executive coaching firm Essex Partners), in Fortune Magazine (June 3, 2011 issue) the Top 5 mistakes on executive resumes are:

1. Replace your "objective statement” with an executive summary statement
2. Try not to be all things to all employers.Instead senior managers should emphasize one or two areas where you feel you’ve made the most impact at your job(s). 

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Snap Out of It: Stress Management for Everyone By Brook Zemel, Ph.D., LPC-S and Nina Zemel, M.S. Lone Star Counseling Solutions

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I see a relationship between stress and a rubber band. What is this connection? I’m glad you asked. Wind the rubber band up and you know what happens. It gets taut. The same thing happens with stress in your life. Simply get yourself a rubber band (nothing wimpy, but a big thick one) and I’ll explain how this works.

We constantly take in information- both good and bad. Unfortunately, we tend to remember the negative thoughts (“you’re a bad boy”) while allowing the positive to pass right over us. Negative thoughts make us feel sad and depressed, lowers our self-esteem, produces irrational fears and phobias and promotes indecisiveness. Stress may also result in excessive anger, ulcers or high blood pressure and compulsive and addictive behaviors.

Using the psychotherapeutic principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Rational Emotive Therapy, let’s examine our thinking process and how it relates to stress. A simple intervention might help us gain control over these thoughts.

Your mind is like a video recorder that streams video containing negative messages that repeat over and over and over again. You may be wondering how this video was created, and by whom. Although you had major contributions from important people in your life (parents, siblings, classmates, etc.) you are the writer, director and star in your video.

Now, let’s go back to the rubber band and how it might help you to relieve your stress. Imagine, for a moment, that you are thinking a negative thought (I’m a real jerk, loser”) and a person walks up to you and punches you right in the nose (“Ouch”!). What would happen to your negative thought? It would certainly STOP. The rubber band is like a punch in the nose (without the plastic surgery). By snapping the rubber band lightly on your wrist whenever you begin a negative thought, you stop the thought. This process makes you aware of the negative and stressful messages that run through your mind and stops them. Once you stop the negative message then you replace it with a positive statement. For example, a man meeting a woman who he finds attractive might say to himself, “why would she want to go out with me? I’m short, fat and not so good looking….SNAP…, I have a good sense of humor, am a nice guy and even have all my teeth”.

Our mission is to stop the usual automatic manner in which we think and respond. Our negative dialogue has been created over one’s lifetime. If we truly want to change our negative internal dialogue, we have to practice, practice, practice. Most importantly, we need to practice the right response. This reminds me of the golfer that went out every day and hit 100 golf balls at the practice range. He eventually became really good at hitting really bad shots. The point here is that we can practice something over and over again, and if we’re doing it properly, we can eventually improve ourselves. Aha, the good kind of consistency. The good news is that it really is a matter of choice and implementing change. So snap yourself and get out of this rut, because it can be done.

You can, by applying and practicing this process, begin improving your life. There is no magic, just a basic belief in this system, and more importantly in yourself. So, this may be the end of this short article, but it’s only the beginning of a new you. Good luck and don’t make me come out and punch you in the nose.


Publications/Articles

Getting Started with Your Child’s Financial Aid

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When beginning to think about paying for your children’s education the first thing to do is to stop crying, pull yourself together, take a deep breath and call Lance or your therapist. The next thing you should do is follow these steps to start the process of exploring some financial assistance programs that are available.

You should always start with the FAFSA  http://studentaid.ed.gov/fafsa. No, this is not a typographical error, but the acronym for theFree Application for Federal Student Aid. This is the form you complete to determine the amount of money you are qualified to receive from federal assistance programs and grants, as well as federal loans. It is also used for many state, regional, and private student aid programs.

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When Should Your Child Begin Thinking About Their Career?

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Choosing a career is one of the most important decisions your child will make in their lives. Yes, even more important than whether to go Android or iPhone. So, how do we normally handle this milestone(the career, not the phone)?Well, for most of us parents we wait for the decision to fall into our child's lap;some sort of heavenly immaculate career reception.

Parents can begin early in their child's life, exposing them to different experiences followed by career focused discussions that center on their thoughts and impressions. A great place and time is when the family is gathered at the dinner table. There's nothing like slipping in a quick career question, while simultaneously passing the potatoes.

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Summer Job Ideas for Your Teen

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Are you worried that you teenage children may have acquired the dreaded diseases of"affluenza"or"entitlementia."The common traits of these sydromes are frequently found in speech patterns involving statements such as"I need...", "I want..." or "Give me..."  Or in habits such as staying up late, waking up late(are we detecting a pattern here?)partying at the beach, and hanging out with friends, just to name a few.

If you think your teens have contracted one of these debilitating diseases, there is only one known cure which is to go "old school" on them. That's right, it may be time to add some more productive items to the list which will provide growth, respect for money, a bit of discipline and experience combined with some income opportunities for them.

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Dr. Zemel is a regular guest contributor to Street Talk Live/STA Wealth Management where he contributes articles concerning career counseling and college planning. To read his articles go to  http://streettalklive.com/ under “Browse Blog Categories”.

Dissertation:

Title of Dissertation: The Effects of a Computer-Based Career Guidance System (SIGI) on the Career Maturity of College Students. Washington State University.

Other Major Publications:

  • Hellyer, B., Raffetto, B., Zemel, B. (2008). An enrollment bar- A solution for your campus? Innovation Abstracts, 30, 8.
  • Zemel, B. and Henson, D. (1993). A review of the Campbell Interest and Skills Survey (CISS). Career Developments for Adults Infoline, (1-4).
  • Zemel, B. and Hanna, M. (1991). A comparison of the effects of three interventions on the career maturity of college students. Texas Association for Counseling and Development Journal, 19, 63-72.
  • Beales, J., & Zemel, B. (1990). The effects of high school drama on social maturity. The School Counselor, 38, 46-51.
  • Venditti, P., & Zemel, B. (1989, Spring/Summer). Community   college counseling: Justifying it and improving it. Maryland Association for Counseling and Development Journal, 18-25.
  • Venditti, P., & Zemel, B. (1988). The selection process: An overlooked tool for getting high performance from child care employees. Texas Child Care Quarterly, 12, 25-28.
  • Zemel, B., & Venditti, P. (1987). Implementing a college wellness program on a shoestring. Innovation Abstracts, 9, 16.